The social time we had together as friends around the table could have been enjoyable, energizing, and encouraging. Within moments, however, anxiety and enervation had their grip on the discussion. The conversation had shifted from sharing good news and victories to national politics and the economy.
I believe the mood took a U-turn for a couple of reasons. One, the conversation had swung from positive thinking to negative. But the greater reason for the shift, I believe, is that the discussion veered from things we have a great deal of control over to areas in which we have no control. And people already feel too out of control in their lives.
One of the most powerful concepts I’ve retained from reading Stephen Covey’s “First Things First”, is the need to concentrate our resources within our spheres of influence. When people concentrate their thoughts and energy outside of the areas in which they have some degree of influence, their impact is negated. Yet we often expend our energy on areas which return no value for us or others.
Talking and worrying about the economy has no impact on it’s improvement. Conscientiously buying from local merchants with whom you establish a relationship can have a huge impact on their business and yours.
Debate about President Obama’s term in office will have no positive change on his effectiveness, no matter which side of the discussion is “right”. However, becoming informed about local issues and supporting local candidates that are working to change the political status quo can create are far deeper impact for one’s time invested.
But it’s not just the issues “out there” that I see capturing people’s attention. I’m frequently around intelligent, well educated business people who are still complaining about their particular industry sector and business. When I ask what they’re doing to create a change, they’re often doing what they’ve always done – waiting for conditions to change. And they’re spending most of their resources – energy and money – on areas outside of their circles of greatest influence.
There is no revision of their business plan. No strategy. No commitment to marketing. No networking with the people they already know who are willing to do business with them. Nada. Except for complaining about how things “out there” need to be better. Ain’t likely to happen.
Most folks don’t really want to work for a change to occur. They like the comfort of status quo. That’s why they burn their resources outside of the circles of influence that are closest to them rather than heat up the opportunities within their reach.
How about you? Are you concentrating your effort on the relationships that could have the greatest impact on changing your world for the better?
Charles